Holding Space for the Business of Loss

Grief is already heavy. But after someone we love dies, we’re often handed more weight: paperwork, decisions, deadlines, and questions we never imagined answering. In the days and weeks that follow a loss, you may find yourself signing documents with tears in your eyes or trying to write an obituary while your heart is breaking.

This month, I’m shining a light on something we don’t talk about enough: the business of loss. From navigating funeral decisions to locating a death certificate, the logistical side of death can feel cold and overwhelming—but it doesn’t have to be. That’s why I created a video series called “After the Goodbye: What Happens Next?” It’s a compassionate, practical guide to help you move through the necessary next steps at your own pace, with clarity and care.

5 Steps to Writing a Meaningful Obituary

When someone we love dies, words often fail us. And yet, we’re asked to write something that sums up their life—a final tribute. It’s no small task. But it doesn’t have to be overwhelming.

Here are 5 key points from my video on writing an obituary with heart:

1. Start with the Basics

Include the full name, age, place of residence, and date of death. These details help anchor the obituary in fact before emotion.

2. Add Heart to the Story

What made your loved one special? Mention passions, values, quirks, or their role in your family or community. A good obituary doesn’t just state facts—it paints a picture.

3. Mention Survivors and Predeceased Loved Ones

List those left behind and, if appropriate, include loved ones who have passed before. This honors the connections that shaped their life.

4. Share Service Details

Include time, date, and location of services or memorials. If you’re postponing or planning a private gathering, note that too.

5. Include Donation or Tribute Info

If your loved one cared deeply about a cause or community, suggest donations in their memory. This turns grief into a continued impact.

Gentle Reminder: You don’t need to get it perfect. You just need to make it personal. Let your heart guide your words—and take breaks when you need to.

🎥 Watch the full video here ➤ Easy Steps To Writing a Meaningful Obituary

✍️ Reflection Corner: Journal Prompt

In Case You Missed It: Other Videos in the Series

• ✅ A Comprehensive Guide to What to Do After a Loved One Dies

• 🕯️ What’s the BIG Difference Between a Funeral, Wake, and Memorial Service?

• 🖋️ How to Write a Meaningful Eulogy

• 📄 Why Death Certificates Are Essential After a Loved One Dies

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Featured Support Videos: Because Grief Doesn’t Follow a Checklist

While writing an obituary or handling logistics can be necessary, it’s important to acknowledge the emotional toll they take. Grief doesn’t pause just because there’s paperwork to do. These two videos offer emotional support when the to-do list feels too heavy:

💥 Grief Triggers Are Real: What to Know and How to Cope

You may find yourself crying in the middle of writing an obituary—or feeling nothing at all and wondering if something is wrong. In this video, we explore how unexpected grief triggers show up and how to be gentle with yourself when they do.
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🧘‍♀️ Guided Meditation for Grounding After a Loss

If you’re feeling overwhelmed or disconnected, this short meditation is for you. It’s a simple invitation to pause, breathe, and feel anchored—even if just for a few moments.
🎥 Try the Meditation ➤ Guided Meditation for Grief A Gentle Path Toward Healing

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